12 REASONS PASTORS’ WIVES ARE LONELY

Here are the twelve most common reasons pastors’ wives have offered to explain their loneliness.

1. Superficial relationships in the church. “No one ever sees me as my own person. I am the pastor’s wife. No one tries to get close to me.”

2. A busy pastor/husband. “My husband is on 24/7 call all the time. I just get leftovers.”

3. Mean church members. “I guess I’ve isolated myself to some extent. I just don’t want to keep hearing those awful things they say about my husband and me.”

4. A conduit for complaints about her husband. “Last week someone told me their family was leaving the church because my husband is a lousy preacher. Do they have any idea how that makes me feel?”

5. Broken confidences. “I’ve given up trying to get close to church members. I thought I had a close friend until I found out she was sharing everything I told her. That killed me emotionally.”

6. Frequent moves. “I’m scared to get close to anybody now. Every time I develop a close relationship, we move again.”

7. Viewed as a second-class person. “One church member introduced me to a guest visiting the church by saying I’m ‘just the pastor’s wife.'”

8. Lack of support groups. “I’ve heard that some wives have support groups that really help. I’ve never been able to find one.”

9. No date nights. “I can’t remember the last time my husband and I had a date night together.”

10. Complaints about children. “I really don’t try to get close to church members anymore. I’m tired of so many of them telling me how perfect our children should be.”

11. Husband does not give the wife priority. “Frankly, the church is like a mistress to my husband. He has abandoned me for someone else.”

12. Financial struggles. “My husband makes so much less money than most of the members. I just can’t afford to do the things they do socially.”

While many pastors’ wives share that there are blessings in their role, many do suffer severe loneliness. I would love to hear from more of these wives. And I would love to hear from others about them. The words I have heard from these women have prompted me to be more intentional about praying for them.
By Thom Rainer @ http://www.christianpost.com/news/12-reasons-pastors-wives-are-lonely-114815/#F5ey8KSFQvboXZGp.99

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